4th March 2002…

marriage anniversary

I met him just twice before my marriage. Mom said she liked him and you get married to him, you know i was very obedient daughter then. I know how much my mom struggled to bring up her three daughters alone. I had full faith in her. I was more confident on my mom then on myself. What ever she does will be better for me. Very girl or a matter everyone has a choice to select their spouse but we both didn’t select for ourselves, it was his mother and my mother who selected for us.

He came very reluctantly to see me at my house. He was reluctantly to come to my house because he didn’t like the idea of parading a girl in front of her future husband and in-laws. Constant pestering by my would be m-law forced him to accept my mom’s invitation. He came with his brothers and mother, he didn’t look directly to me. Had my mom changed me with some other girl i bet he wouldn’t have notice that the bride has been swapped. He told his mother that i am coming for the first time and the last time. If i am going to the girl’s house it means i am getting married to that girl if she likes me, because he hates parading a girl for the marriage.

Next day i went and applied for leave in my office. Everyone was stunned and were worried, as the groom lives in gulf and had my mom took the right decision of getting me married and leaving my banking career. Sometimes when i look back that day was a big turning point in my life and my career. I left my career and left hyderabad. From that day onwards i was like a visitor to my own place. I never lived in hyd for more than three years after 2002. But i don’t regret i am with my small and happy family.I do miss my mom terribly.

Marriage was fixed just in a day and next week  we were couples. Apart from mom it’s my elder sister and b-law who played a major role in getting me married. Thanks K and A for supporting me…you both have a big place in my heart.

Its been 11 years of togetherness and wishing both of us a happy marriage anniversary. Thanks R for been a wonderful husband, bearing my tantrums  and my mood swings. And i know you can never express yourselves. I have grown up with you since last 11 years and hope next year i don’t remind you of our anniversary.:D 😀 😀 😀 😀

Image courtesy google images.

Theen Mahena Baad…..

I am not sure if i can write “I AM BACK”,this is 3rd time i neglected my blog.Its been quite hectic at home not finding time to write.One reason for not finding time is Facebook.What ever little time i am getting is spent on FB and chatting with friends.Everday i login to write something which is going in my mind but end up in FB or reading something else.

Time is just flying past.Its almost 9 months and more 3 months for the new year.Time to sit and think what i did in this year and what i should not carry forward to the next year (i meant mistakes etc…)

Since last month i started going to Gym.I know it is not possible to come back to shape cause i neglected it and  there has been many changes since past 10-11 years.But what’s wrong in giving a try.So almost everyday two hours are spent there and i am enjoying my ME time there with other females.I am loving it……

Kids are having quarterly exams from 19th september and not sure our pink leaders (TRS) will allow the kids to go to school.They have called a band today and planning to continue their agitation for separate Telangana.After exams kids are having holidays for 10 days.Its festival season now.First is dusheera followed by Diwali then Christmas and New year.Planning to do lots of shopping alone with the kids minus husband.

Had school re-union after 20 long years.It was quite emotional to see the old school board and the classes.Met school buddies after 20 years and no one has changed,only appearance has changed.Had so much fun after ages.Left kids with mom and was out for full day and this was the second time i left my kids and i went all alone.Thank you buddies for making that day a memorable day.

Happy Days

No this is not the review of telugu happy days movie but about the things which is making me us happy after coming here.Actually i got inspired to write about this after reading Laksmi’s post here.

Have maid to do my job. 😀

Can get up late at 6.30 everyday morning.

Have many people to talk to.

Chatting with friends on sms.

Mobile rings all the time which was not the case there as i hardly used to get any calls.

Kids enjoying ride on hero honda.

Internet is so fast here.

Can spend much time in blogging as my work is done by maid.

Getting fresh vegetables from the market. 😀

Endless gossiping with sisters,neighbors and maid. 😀

Can have pani puris any time….

The best thing is i can go shopping on my own without husband nagging. 😀

Can wear pattu sarees for functions after 8 longs years.

Last but not the least have reduced weight as i am troubling my legs to take stairs to second floor almost 4-5 times a days and walking to drop and pick the kids from school. 😀

Thank you god……….

A letter from Amma

When i was in muscat amma used to write to me very frequently inspite of having hotmail account.Before leaving India i took her to net cafe and showed her how to mail me and read my mails.Initially she wrote few mails and then switched to letters.Almost every week i used to get mails from her and if i delay writing back to her,she used to call me inquiring if everything is ok.Today when i was cleaning i got a bunch of letters she wrote to me.I want to share what she wrote to me 7 years back.

Dear Saritha,

How are you and Rk ? Please write to me frequently.I am fine here and i am not alone as i am having sweet memories of my daughters,especially my saritha.I am not alone,i am having my life.

Carefully read and understand the following:-

Gita says that we have to work constantly,work with all power to put our whole mind in the work,what ever it be,what ever we are doing.At the same time we must not be attached .That is to say we must not be drawn away from the work by anything else,still we must be able to quit the work when ever we like.So god has given me the strength to do my work with my daughters co-operation.I only did my job but nothing else.

Attachment is the sources of all our pleasures.We are attached with our relationship so we get pleasures from that.At some stage in our life we have to detach ourselves at will.You never left me alone.He/she who is having the power of attaching himself to a thing what ever it maybe with all the energy,has also the power to detach himself when he/she should do.There is as much pain of attachment as that of detachment.

Don’t worry about me please enjoy your life.Don’t do dieting and eat well.

मुझै न भुलाना.

Love

Amma.

Bathukamma Festival

Bathukamma festival is celebrated by women in telangana region of andhra pradesh.This is celebrated in the month of september and october and gets concluded two days before dusheera.

Batuku means live, and Amma means mother, hence Batukamma. Batukamma celebrates the glory of Gauri goddess (meaning fair or white) – the patron Goddess of womanhood.This festival is celebrated by women and girls.Women are draped traditionally silk sarees, wear Jewellery and girls in a two-piece saree called as Langa oni.

The women arrange seven varities of flowers on a plate in a conical shape and call it batukamma.Once the plate is arranged the plate is kept on the ground and all the women form a circle around the bathkamma and they clap hands and sing songs

The legend of Batukamma Panduga (festival) is mentioned in one of the historical texts scripted in Telugu. Centuries ago, King Dharmangada of Chola Dynasty used to rule South India. He was childless for many years after marriage. After performing many pujas and rituals, his wife gave birth to Goddess Lakshmi.

Baby Lakshmi survived many accidents. So, her parents named her Batukamma (Batuku = life, Amma= suffix to female names and mother). Since then, Batukamma festival is celebrated by young girls in Telangana region. The main purpose of this festival is to worship the Goddess in the belief that the young girls would get husbands as per their wish. It is celebrated for nine days beginning from the Padyami (first day) of the month Ashvayuja (September-October).—The info is from wikipedia.

We don’t celebrate this festival but since my childhood i have been seeing my neighbours doing this puja.And me and my sisters along with the other girls and aunties used to sing, clap and make rounds around the plate with flowers.

Pictures:-From google images.