4 Years of Blogging

31/12/2008 was the day i started my blog. Till then i was not aware that i too can write and will be appreciated by my readers. Before blogging i am not able to express myself, the best last thing i used to do was scribble on a paper my emotions and tear that off after few days. My schoolmate introduced me to blogging as all my readers and friends knew about it as i keep on mentioning about him.

Thanks to all my friends,readers and people who follow my blog. Your appreciation and kind words made me to complete 4 years of blogging.

Learnt a lot through reading you all my friends. Some post of yours have changed me as a person, made me sensitive towards others, encouraged me, made me smile, made me laugh, made me cry, made me appreciate small things in life, started liking dogs and cats and many things which i am not able to express in words.

Love you all and super tight hugs to be there for me…..

Last snow picture for this year 😉

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I am annoyed…

Its been more than two months i moved here.The best part of my living here is that i don’t get stares from people here.The only people who stare you is a desi. They just scan you from top to the bottom be it in a lift , shopping mall, bus stops or walking on the road.

I noticed here no body cares what you wear and what you do.There is so much of freedom which we should learn from the West.We keep hearing that we are adopting the West and becoming worse but there is so much to adopt from the West.

In India you don’t feel comfortable walking on the roads but we have got used to those stares and eve teasing.And i am sure all of us in some point of our life have encountered such things if not then they are very lucky.

Once it had happened i with the kids lost our way and were searching for an address. The road we took was empty and suddenly from no where a drunken guy came and approached us. His eyes were blood-red colour and i still remember those eyes. I ignored him and walked away but that guy followed us and luckily an elderly women came to me and saw my panic face. She showed me the way with advice that I should not go on the roads without a male companion. My cousin came and picked me from there.

When you drive you are followed because you over took him. As if the roads are not meant for women. When we complain to police they say it is a very trivial issues which we should not report to.

I will never take a public transport buses in Hyderabad nor i will allow any girls to take those buses. Those buses are full of perverts who get into the bus just to satisfy themselves, they are not bothered what happens to the girl. And all this are seen by other women in the buses, no women has guts to fight for that girl nor the bus conductor has the guts to throw that perverts out of the bus.

Only thing i can do is pray for all girls and tell them that nothing changes. We are used to such incidents and will forget after sometimes and life moves on without any change. But please do keep in mind the following points which i thought would be little help.

Always keep safe.

Don’t trust strangers (male or female).

If possible don’t take any public transport or private transport, if you are above the age of 18 years get a scooter for yourself.

Always keep police patrol number in the speed dial of your mobile phone.

Inform parents or friends about your whereabouts.

I know this is not at all possible but try to read what is going on in the other persons mind.  Act quickly whether it is wrong or right  and don’t think what others say or so.

Don’t panic , if you panic half of the battle is lost before the fight. Be brave and act smartly.

I request my readers to add more to these points which will be helpful for my girls and other girls out there.

Edited to add :-

Sandhya says.. Send the girls to karate class and they should be bold enough to handle these perverts whether small timers or big timers.

 

Our First Winter here…

Winter is slowly setting in. The temperature now is 0 degrees Celsius and we are not used to these kind of weather,the winter maximum we have in Hyderabad is around 15 degrees Celsius.Today morning when we ventured out we were surprised to see snow on the roads.Kids had a good time on their way to school.The snow was not that much and by afternoon all snow melted and roads were clear.Here weather is so un-predictable and your are caught unaware if you think it is sunny and you end up shivering.So it is always better to go fully dressed.

Pink just hates to get dressed up that too with 3-4 t-shirts,2 pants,heavy winter jacket and snow boots.Varu is quite comfortable with the dressing and she is loving it.

Inside the house we don’t  feel the cold,it is quite similar to Dubai where it is not hot indoors.There are A/C’s ,here heaters.But heaters too has dis-advantages as they make skin very dry.So tons and tons of body lotion are rubbed on the bodies.

I created a new blog by name My New Adopted Home,it has only pictures..Do check the link here

Schools here

The first thing we did after coming here was finding a flat.Once we shifted to flat the first thing was to look for a school.The system here is that every neighbourhood has a school. The minimum distance between the school and houses should be less than 2 KM,so one can find a school very easily not the house.Luckily we got a good flat and school is just 4-5 minutes from the house. Infact i can see school from my balcony.

We got the school admission immediately but kids has to write a assessment test (it was just a formality).Here first language is the language the kids speak at home,school emphasis that kids should be well versed in their first language.They say what ever we teach them if that is translated into their first language they will understand very well.I was taken by surprise when i was told English is their second language.Back home our first language we say is English followed by Hindi and Telugu.

Here special needs children go to the same school unlike us.Here they want them to know that they are not different.And the kids who are physically challenged they get very good assistance.Check the below picture how a kid is been taken home from school.A special bus comes for the kid.

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Even in public transport when a challenged person is trying to get into the bus the bus driver reduces the height of the bus so that the person can easily climb the bus.And passengers immediately get up from their seats and make way for that person,like pulling his wheelchair.

Good it happened…..

Last two years were tough.Good it happened it made me a better person and it made me strong to cope with the situations.I pray i won’t get to see those years again.Was stressed out too much.

Much was spent in a hope that husband will get a job he was desiring in hyderabad but we were wrong in that.He didn’t get proper opening and he got a better job in Dubai.We gave 2 years time for ourselves and now that company doesn’t want him to leave them.

But some where a decision has to be taken and we are here.A new chapter in our life and as people here say kids will just love this place and will get adjusted soon.

Living alone was only possible with my mom and my immediate family support.  And i thank them all for the emotional and mental support.I should not miss thanking my house help and my building watchmen.They both were very helpful. Any time of the day they answered my call,be it getting medicine from pharmacy, accompanying me at night,looking after the kids when i am went out or getting me a pizza etc……Now they both are helping my mother the way they did for me.

During those two years my best companion were my kids off course husband used to call everyday. Pinkuda missed her bad so badly that in the middle of night she used to search for him on the bed.And when he was with us she never used to take him out of her sight.He used to give her bath,feed her,take her to school,change her dress etc…….But when he left us she used to be depressed and used to behave very strangely.Now everything has come to an end and she is very happy to be with her dad.Now she ignores him a lot cause she nows he won’t leave us and go to Dubai.I should say sorry to kids for going through all this.

Those two years people have written me off,my financial status was questioned but i never answered them because i knew all this were temporary and i always believe in Sunshine after Dark.