Its been more than two months i moved here.The best part of my living here is that i don’t get stares from people here.The only people who stare you is a desi. They just scan you from top to the bottom be it in a lift , shopping mall, bus stops or walking on the road.
I noticed here no body cares what you wear and what you do.There is so much of freedom which we should learn from the West.We keep hearing that we are adopting the West and becoming worse but there is so much to adopt from the West.
In India you don’t feel comfortable walking on the roads but we have got used to those stares and eve teasing.And i am sure all of us in some point of our life have encountered such things if not then they are very lucky.
Once it had happened i with the kids lost our way and were searching for an address. The road we took was empty and suddenly from no where a drunken guy came and approached us. His eyes were blood-red colour and i still remember those eyes. I ignored him and walked away but that guy followed us and luckily an elderly women came to me and saw my panic face. She showed me the way with advice that I should not go on the roads without a male companion. My cousin came and picked me from there.
When you drive you are followed because you over took him. As if the roads are not meant for women. When we complain to police they say it is a very trivial issues which we should not report to.
I will never take a public transport buses in Hyderabad nor i will allow any girls to take those buses. Those buses are full of perverts who get into the bus just to satisfy themselves, they are not bothered what happens to the girl. And all this are seen by other women in the buses, no women has guts to fight for that girl nor the bus conductor has the guts to throw that perverts out of the bus.
Only thing i can do is pray for all girls and tell them that nothing changes. We are used to such incidents and will forget after sometimes and life moves on without any change. But please do keep in mind the following points which i thought would be little help.
Always keep safe.
Don’t trust strangers (male or female).
If possible don’t take any public transport or private transport, if you are above the age of 18 years get a scooter for yourself.
Always keep police patrol number in the speed dial of your mobile phone.
Inform parents or friends about your whereabouts.
I know this is not at all possible but try to read what is going on in the other persons mind. Act quickly whether it is wrong or right and don’t think what others say or so.
Don’t panic , if you panic half of the battle is lost before the fight. Be brave and act smartly.
I request my readers to add more to these points which will be helpful for my girls and other girls out there.
Edited to add :-
Sandhya says.. Send the girls to karate class and they should be bold enough to handle these perverts whether small timers or big timers.
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