“Try to get what you love or else you are forced to love what you get”- Author unknown.
My job after my Post graduation was my first love and it was in the year 1997, i was fresh from college and didnt know much about what i am supposed to do in the job.It was purely sales job and i used to enjoy a lot.It involved lot of travelling in the city as well as to other states.Never got a chance to explore the other states but my city i have explored it to maximum in those 3 years of my job.
I was so obessed with my job that my mom used to tell me that whole night i used to murmur in my sleep about my work.I still get dreams that i am working in that company.I still carry my visiting card in my purse.The feeling I had when i saw my first visiting card cannot be expressed in the words.
Then my mom started telling me that sales jobs are not for girls,it is not good to come home late at 9.00 in the night and forced me to write bank exam.I don’t how i cleared the exam inspite of not doing a single maths problem correctly (that’s according to me,maybe the person who corrected by paper got all the answers right,i don’t know).Then when i got the job in a pvt bank very reluctantly resigned the job,that day i cried a lot and i still miss my first job.Even now i am sure of getting that sort of job but i don’t think i can give that much time and concentration to my job.That time i was single and young i have ample of time for myself.Now with family and kids i don’t think i can.
I was the only female in my office and i used to get preferential treatment from my colleagues then. I was bothered by my colleagues only in the end of the month when there was a deficit in the sales target and asking me to contribute more for that month. I had a very good rapport with the distributors that a single phone to them our sales target was achieved.
Had I not listen to my mom, I would have completed 20 years in the same company. That company gave a voice to an introvert. I can’t blame her to, she is more bothered about the society then my interest and my choice. What I am now it’s because of that company, it made me bold and speak up.
After that company what ever job I did,I was forced to love that job. Now I work because I have to pay my bills.
No this post is not about biryani recipe. This is about my mom making biryani at home.
Eating biryani was a luxury then. Maybe once in couple of months my mom used to make biryani at home. It used to be a elaborate lunch on Sundays. In spite of having dining table we all used to sit down in a circle and eat together ( family which eats together, stays together).
Now coming to biryani, we had a papaya tree in our back yard and mom use to cut papaya into thin slices and dried it under the sun. She used to use this dried papaya as meat tenderizer and marinate meat with it.
Mom used to grind ginger and garlic paste, no store brought(it was not available then). Powder whole garam masala.Marinate mutton in the curd and other ingredients and keep it for two hours.
The basmati rice too was luxury then and we used to eat Sona Masori. She used to soak rice for two hours.
Once biryani is half cooked mom used to spread thin cotton cloth on the top of biryani so that extra moisture gets sucked up.
And when serving biryani she never used to mix the entire biryani. She used to take a portion of biryani and used to serve that to us. I cannot match her biryani, the aroma of freshly grinded spices and saffron…it’s yummyyyyy.
And she used to make bagara baingan and raita to eat with biryani.
After the heavy meal it was home made ice cream treat. Home made ice cream in another post.
Edited: changed the day from 14 to 13.
Last two years were tough.Good it happened it made me a better person and it made me strong to cope with the situations.I pray i won’t get to see those years again.Was stressed out too much.
Much was spent in a hope that husband will get a job he was desiring in hyderabad but we were wrong in that.He didn’t get proper opening and he got a better job in Dubai.We gave 2 years time for ourselves and now that company doesn’t want him to leave them.
But some where a decision has to be taken and we are here.A new chapter in our life and as people here say kids will just love this place and will get adjusted soon.
Living alone was only possible with my mom and my immediate family support. And i thank them all for the emotional and mental support.I should not miss thanking my house help and my building watchmen.They both were very helpful. Any time of the day they answered my call,be it getting medicine from pharmacy, accompanying me at night,looking after the kids when i am went out or getting me a pizza etc……Now they both are helping my mother the way they did for me.
During those two years my best companion were my kids off course husband used to call everyday. Pinkuda missed her bad so badly that in the middle of night she used to search for him on the bed.And when he was with us she never used to take him out of her sight.He used to give her bath,feed her,take her to school,change her dress etc…….But when he left us she used to be depressed and used to behave very strangely.Now everything has come to an end and she is very happy to be with her dad.Now she ignores him a lot cause she nows he won’t leave us and go to Dubai.I should say sorry to kids for going through all this.
Those two years people have written me off,my financial status was questioned but i never answered them because i knew all this were temporary and i always believe in Sunshine after Dark.
Life sometimes showers us with surprises.Never thought i will be on my own in a different country where everything is new.New surroundings,new people,new house,new rules and regulations and endless new things…..
Sometimes life leaves us with very little choices.Never thought of going out of hyderabad leaving my immediate family and that too my mom.Dubai was quite near to hyderabad it was just 4 hours flight where as the place i am living is 16 hours journey.We sleep and my mom gets up.So my early morning starts with talking to my mother,i talk to her everyday and don’t know what all the topics we cover and when we hang up the phone i miss telling a thing or so.
Came here with lots of sweet memories and life doesn’t always leaves you with sweet memories,it gives sour and bitter memories too.Trying hard not to recollect those sour and bitter memories but sometimes they just pop up from no where.
The transition from there to here as been smooth expect for pinky she is yet to accept the change.I was under impression that it is she who will accept the change soon but i am wrong.Varu has embraced the change and i can see a confident little girl mingling with new people, new surroundings etc with a smile.The best part she likes is going to the library.She tries to carry books more than her weight.
Pinky is becoming very patriotic, she says to me amma you are a bad girl,you don’t like India that’s why you brought us here.I love India,i want to go back.More than India she misses my mom,the most pampering granny i have every seen.I know i was hard on her leaving her alone in the house the night i left Hyderabad but i made a promise to myself that once we are settled here i will bring her for ever to be with us.
Btw i didn’t mention where i am,i am in Canada.
Hope to come back to blogging……
I am not sure if i can write “I AM BACK”,this is 3rd time i neglected my blog.Its been quite hectic at home not finding time to write.One reason for not finding time is Facebook.What ever little time i am getting is spent on FB and chatting with friends.Everday i login to write something which is going in my mind but end up in FB or reading something else.
Time is just flying past.Its almost 9 months and more 3 months for the new year.Time to sit and think what i did in this year and what i should not carry forward to the next year (i meant mistakes etc…)
Since last month i started going to Gym.I know it is not possible to come back to shape cause i neglected it and there has been many changes since past 10-11 years.But what’s wrong in giving a try.So almost everyday two hours are spent there and i am enjoying my ME time there with other females.I am loving it……
Kids are having quarterly exams from 19th september and not sure our pink leaders (TRS) will allow the kids to go to school.They have called a band today and planning to continue their agitation for separate Telangana.After exams kids are having holidays for 10 days.Its festival season now.First is dusheera followed by Diwali then Christmas and New year.Planning to do lots of shopping alone with the kids minus husband.
Had school re-union after 20 long years.It was quite emotional to see the old school board and the classes.Met school buddies after 20 years and no one has changed,only appearance has changed.Had so much fun after ages.Left kids with mom and was out for full day and this was the second time i left my kids and i went all alone.Thank you buddies for making that day a memorable day.
How time is running so fast,feeling as if we celebrated new year yesterday and now we are at the end of the year 2010.
There has been many up and downs in this year. Health has suffered a lot but putting all these things aside this year has fabulous and wonderful.The first was coming back home and making the kids settle in their new school and surroundings.Its a nice feeling to be with mom after 8 years of coming out from the house and also to be near to sisters.
Met friends after a gap of 6 years and now still few are there whom i am planning to catch up soon.
Now about virtual friends,now they are just a phone call way.Hardly called anyone when i was in Dubai but here i am keeping in touch with them through sms.
Old laptop is spoiled beyond repair all the data is still there in the laptop.Good thing is got a new chocolate colour laptop.
Had a wonderful vacation in Canada.Myself and kids enjoyed a lot.
Lost aunt due to old age.
Met Mama after 3 years,he is recovering from a head injury in which he lost his memory.That day was a happy family re-union where mama and mom hugged each other and he recognized mom which was much to everyone surprise as he lost his memory.Both cried of happiness.
This year Hyderabad is in chaos with bund for everything and fasting unto death has become a routine things.Then the drama of forcing the leader who is fasting to the hospital,then one leader secretly drinks juice and later government accepts his demand.One leader made fool of himself and he fasted for 8 days and went home empty-handed as govt didn’t accept his demand. Government was ready to accept a separate state but not the increase in the ex-gratia to farmers.Hope coming year will be peaceful in Hyderabad.
Weather also played havoc this year.There were too many cyclones and rains.The results was much crop were lots.Babus are busy demanding separate and poor farmers are on the verge to kill themselves as all their crops are lost and there is no hope from the government.
Has reduced a lot in this year after coming back to hyderabad.Just 3 kgs more of my ideal weight of 56 kgs.
Have a wonderful year ahead,may all your wishes get fulfilled in the coming year.Happy New Year.