4th March 2002…

I met him just twice before my marriage. Mom said she liked him and you get married to him, you know i was very obedient daughter then. I know how much my mom struggled to bring up her three daughters alone. I had full faith in her. I was more confident on my mom then on myself. What ever she does will be better for me. Very girl or a matter everyone has a choice to select their spouse but we both didn’t select for ourselves, it was his mother and my mother who selected for us.

He came very reluctantly to see me at my house. He was reluctantly to come to my house because he didn’t like the idea of parading a girl in front of her future husband and in-laws. Constant pestering by my would be m-law forced him to accept my mom’s invitation. He came with his brothers and mother, he didn’t look directly to me. Had my mom changed me with some other girl i bet he wouldn’t have notice that the bride has been swapped. He told his mother that i am coming for the first time and the last time. If i am going to the girl’s house it means i am getting married to that girl if she likes me, because he hates parading a girl for the marriage.

Next day i went and applied for leave in my office. Everyone was stunned and were worried, as the groom lives in gulf and had my mom took the right decision of getting me married and leaving my banking career. Sometimes when i look back that day was a big turning point in my life and my career. I left my career and left hyderabad. From that day onwards i was like a visitor to my own place. I never lived in hyd for more than three years after 2002. But i don’t regret i am with my small and happy family.I do miss my mom terribly.

Marriage was fixed just in a day and next week  we were couples. Apart from mom it’s my elder sister and b-law who played a major role in getting me married. Thanks K and A for supporting me…you both have a big place in my heart.

Its been 11 years of togetherness and wishing both of us a happy marriage anniversary. Thanks R for been a wonderful husband, bearing my tantrums  and my mood swings. And i know you can never express yourselves. I have grown up with you since last 11 years and hope next year i don’t remind you of our anniversary.:D

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Good it happened…..

Last two years were tough.Good it happened it made me a better person and it made me strong to cope with the situations.I pray i won’t get to see those years again.Was stressed out too much.

Much was spent in a hope that husband will get a job he was desiring in hyderabad but we were wrong in that.He didn’t get proper opening and he got a better job in Dubai.We gave 2 years time for ourselves and now that company doesn’t want him to leave them.

But some where a decision has to be taken and we are here.A new chapter in our life and as people here say kids will just love this place and will get adjusted soon.

Living alone was only possible with my mom and my immediate family support.  And i thank them all for the emotional and mental support.I should not miss thanking my house help and my building watchmen.They both were very helpful. Any time of the day they answered my call,be it getting medicine from pharmacy, accompanying me at night,looking after the kids when i am went out or getting me a pizza etc……Now they both are helping my mother the way they did for me.

During those two years my best companion were my kids off course husband used to call everyday. Pinkuda missed her bad so badly that in the middle of night she used to search for him on the bed.And when he was with us she never used to take him out of her sight.He used to give her bath,feed her,take her to school,change her dress etc…….But when he left us she used to be depressed and used to behave very strangely.Now everything has come to an end and she is very happy to be with her dad.Now she ignores him a lot cause she nows he won’t leave us and go to Dubai.I should say sorry to kids for going through all this.

Those two years people have written me off,my financial status was questioned but i never answered them because i knew all this were temporary and i always believe in Sunshine after Dark.

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