I was always been a average student.My mom knows how much i will score much before my results cause i always used to get 60%.Even in my PG i didn’t score more than 60%,maybe my IQ is that much only.I don’t remember my mom forcing me to study for the exams nor i went to tutions.My mom was a working women so we sisters used to study by ourselves.
I never force varu to study except for hindi.But she scored quite well in hindi as such it is difficult to score in hindi but she did quite well and also in telugu she scored well.Her fav language is telugu now and she shows interest in telugu.
Why i wrote all this??
Recently we had a ptm in the school and there a student got 85% marks and that boy’s mom was very upset with the result and in front of everyone she was scolding the boy that he got ONLY 85%.Poor at the young age of 6 1/2 years he has to come to his mother expectation of getting 99% marks.The boy eyes were moist.
We expect so much from the kids from the day they are born.We check milestones whether they reached there at the correct age and we burden them of going to school at the tender age of 3.I did a mistake by sending varu to LKG at 3,poor girl she used to get so tired that she used to sleep of without changing her school uniform and without lunch.So i didnt do the same mistake with pinkuda she is supposed to go to LKG but we both decided not to trouble her,we joined her in the nursery.When we ask her what she did in her school,she says i ate my breakfast and played played…..
I have noticed with my two kids that one grasp new things quickly where as other one takes time to understand and to remember.Then why few mom’s compare their kids with others.Recently varu’s classmate’s mom took varu’s bag just to check if her son has missed anything to write.She didn’t ask me nor the teacher she just took the bag with the books and came home after 3 hours to return the books and she was complaining about her kid that he doesn’t writes anything properly,your daughters books are very neat and complete.Poor that boy didn’t lift his head up.Really some parents are crazy they behave as if their kid is studying for IAS exams and they have to prepare notes for their kids.I have seen mothers taking off from their offices just to make their kid study for unit test that too for grade 2.I don’t know what rocket science they are going to teach their kids.
I hate when they ask me what is your kids percentage,what they will do by knowing it ? maybe they will compare and scold their kids
This post was in my drafts since long,i am not getting time at all.When i was in dxb i used to have much time for myself inspite of not having a house help.Here has got house help for all the household chores and my job is just to wash clothes (which a washing machine does) cook and feed the kids.But not getting time at all.The only extra thing i am planning to do was to go for a walk,which i am planning since last 3-4 months but not yet started.Hope my plans of going for a walk will start from Jan 2011.